The five pillars of resiliency: Belonging
The five pillars of resiliency: Perspective
The five pillars of resiliency: Acceptance
The five pillars of resiliency: Hope
The five pillars of resiliency: Humour
Self-compassion
Wellness
Speaker: Dr. Robyne Hanely-Dafoe
Hello everyone at OTIP and salut RAEO!
I am just thrilled to be kicking off this wellness and resiliency jump-in session where we are going to talk about all thing's resiliency and wellness.
So, to get us started, the first dimension that I want to explore is a sense of belonging.
Belonging is crucial for our resiliency.
We need to have a home team. We need people in our corner that are going to encourage us, that are even going to protect us and we also feel that need to protect them.
So, when we think about belonging and mindful especially right now, people are feeling really disconnected and people are feeling even a bit wobbly. That is ok.
Sometimes belonging is very much a season of hellos and goodbyes, and it is not going to be the same team the whole time through your lifespan. There is going to be seasons and it is okay that we figure out what makes sense for us. But the goal of the sense of belonging is that you feel seen, heard and truly accepted.
So that is my invitation for you. To really cultivate our home team. And when you are so busy being of service to others, sometimes our family systems they get a depleted version of us. So, really set the intention to show up for your family. The people that are counting on you in a way that honours the very important role they have in your life.
So, thank you and I will see you next time. Goodbye for now.
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Speaker: Dr. Robyne Hanely-Dafoe
Hello OTIP and salut RAEO!
My name is Robyne and I am just thrilled to jump in here and talk a wee bit about some of these ideas about resilience and wellness.
So, the first concept for today’s little jump-in is going to be the notion of perspective.
Now what we know that there are five pillars of resiliency and perspective we call the second pillar.
Now what this means is there is this capacity to interpret information in a way that aligns with our head and our heart. And to be able to practice resilient perspective taking we want to operate from our values. Because when we operate from our values it gives us the capacity to show up authentically.
Now here is a wee perspective check for you. One of the things we know about the current landscape is we have passed the one year mark where we have been in pretty extenuating circumstances. Precarious environments with all of the different challenges and stressors.
Now it is interesting, if we were members of the military, we would never be deployed usually for more than say two hundred and twenty days. Or four hundred days over two years. Yet here we are passed a full year trying to navigate a global health pandemic.
So, sometimes when we think about this, a perspective check as well is that resiliency requires us to understand that not every day is going to be the same. And resiliency is not even. Some days you will have more. You will have more energy. You can really show up. Other days you might have to do less and that is okay.
So again, a takeaway for perspective is really thinking about what matters most, actually writing down what your core values are. What do you stand for? And I want you to take a moment to reflect on your calendar and we have to make sure every day you are doing at least one thing that is touching on your values. Because that keep things in perspective.
So again, tune in with yourself. Be your own detective. Look at your calendar and make sure okay, if family means the most to me am I doing one thing a day that really signals to that family system that they matter most to me.
So, until next time, take good care and goodbye for now.
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Speaker: Dr. Robyne Hanely-Dafoe
Hello everyone, it is Robyne again.
So, it is exciting to jump in here OTIP and salut RAEO!
Folks, what we are going to have a wee chat about today is the notion of acceptance.
And part of resiliency is really figuring out how to decipher our controlables. What is within our control and what is not within our control, and I appreciate especially this calendar year we faced many challenges. Many hurdles. Things that are in our control and things that are not, and it is okay to feel a little bit wobbly.
Now when we think about learning how to decipher our controllables, one of the ways we think about this is to really kind of get a sense of where do we have agency. Where do we actually have impact? And I love the writing by the late Sir Ken Robinson who says we “always have choice within a system”.
So, check out his resources. A brilliant thinker on those ideas about how do we make change in systems.
Now, what we can do right now is I want you to think about it this way. How do you control the energy you are going to bring to your current day? So, how do you control the energy that you bring to situations, you bring to conversations, that you bring even to your own active recovery?
So, again, my invitation for you is to focus on where you do have agency and that is part of being resilient. It is understanding that it is not even. Some days you are going to have more energy and focus. Other days, you might have to do less. But again, just accepting that what is within my control and what is not within my control is going to help us practice the everyday resiliency that we all need.
So, thank you. Until next time. Goodbye for now.
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Speaker: Dr. Robyne Hanely-Dafoe
Hello OTIP! Salut RAEO!
So, today is our little jump-in. It is going to be all about the variable of hope. Choosing to live hope filled.
Now I appreciate when we are in the middle of an ongoing global health pandemic and that needed racial reckoning that has unfolded and all of this uncertainty with so much negative news and negative noise, it is a challenge. It is a challenge to stay hope filled.
But I want you to think about hope this way. I want you to think about hope as not being this idea of like you know I always have to be in a good mood or I always have to look on the bright side.
I want you to think of hope as this little pilot light in your head and your heart that you have to protect.
I need you to protect your peace.
I need you to make sure that whatever it is that cultivates and nourishes and protects that little part of you that you know deep down in your core, that you are going to be okay. Your loved ones will be well.
So, each and every one of us are going to have different ways to cultivate that hope.
For some persons I work with, listening to stories around encouragement, hearing good news stories, that really cultivates their hope.
For others, it might be leaning into your faith or your spiritual practices.
And for others, it could just be being around family systems. Being around those people will give you that encouragement that come what may, we will get through this.
But I do want you to just do pause in your life just to be mindful of all of the messaging that you are taking in. And not a lot of those messages are really hope filled.
So, we have to do our diligence to protect our peace. And sometimes, when you are in situations that are negative there is a lot to stick handle and they are challenging, I want you to hold firm with the idea that you will not surrender your joy to circumstances that are outside of your control.
Protect your peace. Do not surrender your joy. Honour and really hold reverence of the fact that you are doing the best you can in very abnormal situations.
So, take good care and I will see you next time. Goodbye for now.
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Speaker: Dr. Robyne Hanely-Dafoe
Hello again OTIP and salut RAEO!
This is Robyne again and today, the big idea that we are going to talk about is humour.
Now what is really interesting about humour as a role within resiliency is the idea that often when seasons are challenging and there is a lot of stressors, humour and laughter and light heartedness, even moments of merriment, are areas that folks are not thinking about. They are not even considering or it feels too serious to have those little moments.
But what the research demonstrates is that part of our ability to cope is that we get a moment of reprieve.
So, for example, our biology backs this up. When you laugh your body releases a natural tranquilizer.
So, for that moment in time your pain receptors are blocked, which means you can catch your breath.
So, it is a coping strategy. Our body has these chemicals and these hormones that help us carry the load.
Our bodies know what we need and it helps us get through difficult seasons.
So, your takeaway or your big idea I want you to think about is how do you cultivate moments of joy? Those little moments of merriment even in challenging situations.
And again, this idea of humour and light heartedness, it is never at someone else's expense. It is finding those little pockets of peace. Those little moments.
So, what does that look like for you?
So, my challenge is each and every day, I want you to set out with that intention.
Can you see something that gives you that sense of encouragement, hope, that moment of smile, that laughter? You know, I appreciate that our children, children in the world, puppies for sure, animals, pets. There are so many different opportunities to seek out just that little sense of that smile. Right. And it does not have to be big and it does not have to be for a long time, but look for the good. It is there. It is absolutely there and it will help us develop the sustainability and the endurance that we need to keep showing up to be of service to others.
So, thank you and I am looking forward to seeing you next time. Goodbye for now.
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Speaker: Dr. Robyne Hanely-Dafoe
Hello OTIP and salut RAEO!
This is Robyne.
So, the big idea I wish to share with you right now is the idea around self-compassion. And what we have observed in our work is that we are shifting into this other place of compassion fatigue. We are feeling so tired and really wobbly.
Now Dr. Wigley talks about the idea that compassion fatigue is the cost of caring. It is the cost of caring.
So, we want to think about what can we do to ensure that you can continue to do the good work for the people in your world, but not at the cost of yourself.
So, often some folks think about self-care as being selfish. It is not. It is science. You need active recovery.
So, my invitation for you is to think about what is one action item that you can put on the table for you that is going to help you feel alert, active and ready. Just one, one action.
Now what I have observed is it is not a matter that folks do not have time for self-care anymore. People are accepting self-neglect. I do not want that to be your case. You have a birth right to feel well and you can feel well.
What is one right thing that you can do? One next right decision?
So, here is an example, it is called using habit stacking.
I want you to take a habit that you already have. Okay so for me, it is drinking coffee. I do that every morning. No one needs to remind me.
Now what I want you to do is next to your coffee pot, I want you to put a Post-it note and I want you to write: Robyne, say three things that you are grateful for. Well, I would say Robyne on mine, but you say your name on yours. What are three new things that you are grateful for. Start practicing gratitude, it is a form of self-care, and pair it with something you already do, which increases the probability that you will continue to do that new behaviour.
So, please take the time you need to be well. People are counting on you and we want to make sure that you can show up and continue to be of service.
So, thank you and I will talk to you next time. Goodbye for now.
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Speaker: Dr. Robyne Hanely-Dafoe
Hello OTIP! Salut RAEO!
This is Robyne and today we are going to talk about all thing’s wellness.
So, often when we talk about wellness, the reality is people are talking about physical wellness. The wellness industry itself I do not think is very well at times.
Yes, physical is important. Sleep, nutrition, exercise, and the absence of disease.
But we also know that there are seven other dimensions of wellness that we want to cultivate and foster.
Intellectual wellness. Curiosity, learning, wonderment, creativity. Those areas need to be nurtured as well as our emotional. Your thoughts, they need a safe place to land in your head and your heart. Social and environmental.
Your spiritual wellness is so important. The idea behind spiritual wellness is really finding whatever motivates you to live rightly.
And then there is also the financial wellness. Your basic needs have to be met as well as occupational. We spend so much of our time working, we want to make sure that the environments are safe.
Now all of those variables work together to create a constellation of areas of psychological safety.
So, I encourage you to think about other areas in which you can look after you. That you can cultivate, foster and really embolden yourself that our wellness is as broad and deep as we want to explore. And there is a lot of ways to onboard ourselves to that.
So, think about what can you do from an environmental perspective. Or socially. Emotionally. Intellectually. Learning something. Trying a new recipe even. Financial, right. Making sure that we are doing what we can to make sure our matters are in order and again, occupational. Finding moments, pockets of joy within your work day that give you that sense that all will be well.
So, thank you, merci, miigwech and I appreciate our time together. Goodby for now.
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